Intimacy Assessment

How strong is your marriage? Take this free intimacy assessment to find out.

by James Walther, MA, ABS - Catholic Relationship and Sex Coach

Instructions: Each spouse/partner is to take this assessment on their own. Select the option that you feel is most true of your marriage/relationship.

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How closely aligned is your faith with that of your spouse?

Not aligned (e.g., one spouse is an atheist/agnostic and the other is religious)

Somewhat aligned (e.g., both believe in God)

Moderately aligned (e.g., one is Catholic and one is Protestant)

Mostly aligned (e.g., one is Roman Catholic and one is Byzantine Catholic)

Very aligned (e.g., both are Roman Catholic, both are atheists)

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How often do you and your spouse pray together?

Never

Rarely

Sometimes

Often

Daily

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How often do you and your spouse attend religious services/devotions together?

Never

Rarely

Sometimes

Often

Very Often

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How closely aligned are your values/morals with those of your spouse?

Not aligned

Somewhat aligned

Moderately aligned

Mostly aligned

Entirely aligned

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To what degree do you and your spouse hold the importance of religion in your daily lives?

Both - little to no importance

Only one - some importance

Both - some importance

Only one - strong importance

Both - strong importance

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How closely aligned are your life goals with those of your spouse?

Not aligned

Somewhat aligned

Moderately aligned

Mostly aligned

Entirely aligned

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How often do you talk with your spouse about your life goals, hopes, and dreams?

Never

Rarely

Sometimes

Often

Very Often

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How much do you and your spouse support each other in accomplishing your life goals?

We do not support each other in accomplishing our life goals.

Sometimes we support each other.

We support each other, if it does not conflict with our personal goals.

We support each other even when it means delaying a personal goal.

We support each other even when it means sacrificing a personal goal.

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How often is speaking with your spouse intellectually stimulating?

Never

Rarely

Sometimes

Often

Very Often

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How many interests or hobbies do you share in common with your spouse?

We do not have any common interests or hobbies.

We have a few minor common interests.

We have a few important common interests.

We have many common interests.

We share almost all the same interests and hobbies.

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How comfortable are you with sharing your emotions with your spouse?

Very uncomfortable

Somewhat comfortable

Moderately comfortable

Mostly comfortable

Very comfortable

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How often do you and your spouse communicate affection?

Never

Rarely

Sometimes

Often

Very Often

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How often do you feel a deep emotional connection with your spouse?

Never

Rarely

Sometimes

Often

Very Often

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How quickly are conflicts/hurt feelings resolved?

They are usually left unresolved.

Within a week or two

Within a few days

Within a day

Almost immediately

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How strong would you say is the trust between you and your spouse?

No trust

Cautious/weak

It depends on the issue.

Strong

Very strong

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How comfortable are you expressing your physical needs with your spouse?

Very uncomfortable

Somewhat comfortable

Moderately comfortable

Mostly comfortable

Very comfortable

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How satisfying would you say is your sexual intimacy for you and your spouse?

Both are unsatisfied

One is satisfied, one is not

Both are somewhat satisfied.

One is very satisfied, the other is somewhat satisfied.

Both are very satisfied.

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How often do you and your spouse express non-sexual physical affection?

Never

Rarely

Sometimes

Often

Very Often

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How strong would you say is your physical desire for each other?

Both very weak

One somewhat strong, one very weak

Both somewhat strong

One very strong, one somewhat strong

Both very strong

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How often do you or your spouse fall into unfaithfulness (adultery, pornography, masturbation)?

Very Often

Often

Sometimes

Rarely

Never

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Very Strong

You have a high level of intimacy. Keep growing in the areas where you are weak. If you don't know where to start, then professional coaching or counseling may be beneficial.

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Strong

You have a high degree of intimacy, but you still have room to grow. Renew your efforts and seek support from a mentor couple, pastor, therapist, or relationship coach.

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Weak

You have some solid points in your relationship, but there may be times and areas where your relationship is more of a burden than a support. Maybe you have some areas that are stronger than others, but if you don’t use those stronger areas to grow the weaker ones, the weaker ones will kill the others. Outside support from a mentor couple, pastor, therapist, or relationship coach will be a strong help to find and address the causes of your weak areas.

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Very Weak

Your relationship is in critical need of outside professional support. At this stage, it is very unlikely that you will be able to overcome the barriers to your intimacy on your own.

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