Do you Know how to Stand up for Yourself?
If you stand up for yourself, you’ll feel much better about yourself and those around you will respect you for it.
-Orly Katz
You don’t smoke, but everyone else starts smoking at a party. What do you do?
All your friends have decided to meet up on the beach. You don’t feel like going to the beach that day. What do you do?
A good friend has upset you, annoyed you, and offended you. What do you do?
You enjoy watching a TV show your friends think is childish. What do you do?
You have a problem and need to ask a friend for help. What do you do?
You went to the mall with a few friends. You tried on a pair of pants which everyone tells you makes you look great. You think they look awful on you. What do you do?
You have a big test coming up and have decided to start reviewing a few days in advance. Your friends have decided to go out. What do you do?
A friend borrows money from you for the third time, without paying you back. Do you remind them?
You belong to a basketball team that hasn’t been doing very well recently. Would you tell the coach what (or who) is the problem, even if it’s one of your teamates.
A friend asks you to help move some very heavy equipment. You have back trouble and are not supposed to lift anything heavy. What do you do?
You find it hard to stand up for yourself.
You find it hard to stand up for yourself and hold your own. You’re nervous about expressing your opinion if it’s different to that of the majority. You don’t say “No” if it’s something that you don’t want to do, that doesn’t suit you, or that puts you out to do it. You prefer to smooth things over and to do the “right” thing by everyone else. The most important things for you are not to put any one else out, not to upset anyone else or disturb them, and not to be seen as different to everyone. But don’t worry, you can work on yourself. If you start practicing saying “No” to little insignificant things, you’ll be surprised how quickly you learn how to do it, and you’ll be amazed how quickly your self-confidence grows. You’ll start feeling really good about yourself when you start saying and doing what you really want to.
Sometimes you stand up for yourself and sometimes you don’t.
Sometimes you stand up for yourself and sometimes you don’t.
On the one hand, you know how important it is to stand up for yourself and express your opinions and you feel really good when you do that.
On the other hand, you feel that if you say what you really think then you may over step yourself and upset people and not fit in with those around you.
It’s a good idea to look back and see what it was that helped you pluck up courage and say “no” in the past. Try to remember exactly how you succeeded in standing up for yourself, and find how you can find the courage to do so again in the future. You’ll be amazed to discover that saying “no” isn’t such a terrible thing after all. If you’ve managed to stand up for yourself in the past you can do it again!
You are great at standing up for yourself.
You are great at standing up for yourself. You are always honest about your opinion in every circumstance. You’re very self-confident, which is good, although from time to time you should be careful not to upset the sensitivities of those around you. A bit of tact can go a long way, so, if you want to say exactly what you think just because you feel like it, and it isn’t about an important issue that needs changing, it doesn’t hurt just occasionally to take other people’s feelings in to account.