Discover Your Relationship IQ With Our Marriage Relationship Skills Assessment

Take this quiz to identify your relationship skills level. Discover how to improve those skills to deepen your relationship with your spouse.

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How long have you been married?

0-2 years

3-7 years

8-14 years

15+ years

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When I'm upset, I tend to:

Emotional Expression

Keep my feelings to myself

Share my feelings with my partner

Share my feelings and thoughts openly with my partner

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I find it difficult to express my emotions when:

Emotional Expression

I'm feeling overwhelmed

My partner is upset with me

I'm in a high-pressure situation

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When my partner is speaking, I tend to:

Listening Skills

Tune them out

Listen, but not actively engage

Listen actively and ask questions to clarify their message

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I struggle to listen effectively when:

Listening Skills

My partner is emotional

I'm distracted by other things

I'm feeling stressed or anxious

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When my partner and I disagree, I tend to:

Conflict Resolution

Avoid confrontation

Compromise to avoid conflict

Work with my partner to find a mutually beneficial solution

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I struggle to resolve conflicts when:

Conflict Resolution

I feel defensive

My partner is being uncooperative

The issue is particularly sensitive or emotional

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I find it difficult to empathize with my partner when:

Empathy

I'm feeling stressed or overwhelmed

I don't agree with their perspective

I don't fully understand their perspective

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When my partner is upset, I tend to:

Empathy

Get defensive or dismissive

Offer a quick fix to their problem

Validate their feelings and offer support

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When faced with a problem, I tend to:

Problem-Solving

Ignore it and hope it goes away

React impulsively to solve it quickly

Take a systematic approach to finding a solution

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I struggle to find solutions when:

Problem-Solving

I feel overwhelmed or stressed

My partner and I have different opinions

The problem is complex and requires a lot of thought

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I tend to communicate best when:

Communication

I have time to prepare my thoughts

I'm feeling calm and relaxed

I'm actively engaged in the conversation

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I struggle to communicate effectively when:

Communication

I'm feeling defensive or upset

I'm in a noisy or distracting environment

I'm having difficulty understanding my partner's perspective

Avoider (Low relationship skills)

Avoider - Low relationship skills: - This personality type has difficulty with emotional expression, listening to others, and resolving conflicts. They tend to avoid confrontations, keep their feelings to themselves, and struggle with compromise.

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The Casual Collaborator (Medium relationship skills)

The Casual Collaborator - Medium relationship skills: This personality type is capable of expressing themselves, actively listening to others, and working towards finding solutions. However, they may still have difficulty with deep emotional connection and may struggle with empathy in certain situations.

Connector (High relationship skills)

Connector - High relationship skills: This personality type is highly empathetic, has excellent communication skills, and has a strong ability to connect with others on an emotional level. They are excellent problem solvers and are able to navigate conflicts effectively, leading to a deep and fulfilling connection with their partners.