Why Am I Always Last?

Find Out What’s Keeping You from Putting Yourself First — and How to Change It.

You take care of everything and everyone. You're dependable, accomplished, and always showing up — for the job, the family, the community. But deep down, you’re tired. Disconnected. Maybe even a little resentful.

This quick quiz will help you uncover why your needs keep slipping to the bottom of the list — and what to do about it.

In less than 3 minutes, you’ll receive your personal Self-Reclamation Profile and practical next steps to start prioritizing your own joy, energy, and fulfillment — without sacrificing your ambition or your people.

When your to-do list is overflowing, what’s the first thing to go?

My sleep, workouts, or alone time

Time with friends or creative outlets

Something I was looking forward to

Nothing — I just hustle harder

Honestly, I don’t even know what I would want to do for myself

When someone asks how you’re doing, you usually say:

“Busy, but good!”

“I’m fine.”

“Can’t complain!”

“Just tired, but it’s fine.”

I usually change the subject

When was the last time you did something purely for you — no multitasking, no guilt?

Within the last week

A few weeks ago

Months ago

I can’t remember

I’m not sure what that would even be

Which statement sounds most like you?

I take care of everyone else and hope I have time left for me

I feel guilty when I rest or say no

I’m always waiting for the “right time” to prioritize myself

I feel like I lost touch with what I even want

I’m juggling it all and feel like I’m dropping parts of myself

What’s one thing you secretly crave right now?

Silence, rest, and stillness

Creative time or meaningful connection

Clarity about what I actually want

Freedom — even if it’s just a weekend away

To feel like me again

If you had one extra hour every day just for you, how would you spend it?

Sleep or unplug

Journaling, dreaming, or reflecting

Working on a goal or passion project

Moving my body or being outside

I honestly don’t know

When you think about putting yourself first, your first reaction is:

That feels impossible

That feels selfish

That feels exciting

That feels scary

That feels overdue

The Careworn Caretaker - Prioritizes others to the point of exhaustion

You carry everyone. But who carries you?
You’ve been the backbone, the constant, the caregiver. It’s time to put your own soul back on the list.

Profile Snapshot

You are the one everyone leans on — at work, at home, in your community. You show up, hold it together, make it all happen. But the truth is, you’re tired. Not just physically — soul tired. Your own needs are an afterthought, and deep down, you wonder: “When do I get to rest?”

Soul Insight

You learned early on that love is earned through service. That being selfless makes you good. But your soul isn’t asking you to stop caring — it’s asking you to start including yourself in that care.

Self-Reclamation Shift

You don’t need to abandon your people to come back to yourself. Start by honoring your humanity — your needs, your feelings, your joy. Boundaries are not betrayal. They are sacred architecture for a life that includes you.

⚡ Quick Wins: 2-Minute Soul Reconnection

Put your hand on your heart and say, “I matter too.”
Take one nourishing breath just for you — and exhale the pressure to be everything.
Ask: “What do I need right now?” and honor the first thing that comes.

💖 What You Need Most Right Now

Permission to center yourself. A place to lay your burdens down without shame. A space that affirms that you’re more than what you do for others.

You’ve mastered care. Now it’s time for self-devotion.

Join us inside the Dream Accelerator mentoring membership community, where careworn women become fully-alive women — and take their lives off hold.

The Disconnected Dreamer - Has lost touch with what she really wants

Your dreams didn’t die. They just got quiet.You once imagined a life that lit you up. Let’s go find her again.

Profile Snapshot

You used to dream. Wild, beautiful dreams. But somewhere between deadlines and diapers, they got shelved. Now you wake up and wonder whose life you’re living — because it doesn’t quite feel like yours.

Soul Insight

You haven’t failed. You just adapted. You built a life that made sense at the time — but your soul is calling for something deeper now. That whisper? It’s sacred. It’s yours.

Self-Reclamation Shift

Start by listening again. Tune out the noise of obligation and expectation. Tune in to what still stirs something in you — even if it scares you. Even if it doesn’t make sense yet.

⚡ Quick Wins: 2-Minute Soul Reconnection

Close your eyes and ask: “What did I love doing as a child?”
Say aloud: “It’s not too late for me.”
Visualize one scene from your dream life — feel it in your body.

💖 What You Need Most Right Now

Space to dream without judgment. Encouragement to believe again. A guide to help you turn whispers into action.

You don’t need permission to want more.

Step into your next chapter with us — inside the Dream Accelerator mentoring membership community, where quiet dreams become radiant realities.

The Guilt-Wrapped Giver - Struggles to set boundaries and feels selfish when she does

You give and give. But your joy is not a luxury.Your needs are not selfish. They’re sacred.

Profile Snapshot

You’re generous, loyal, and endlessly giving. You rarely say no, and when you do, guilt floods in. You’ve been praised for being selfless — but secretly, you’re starting to feel invisible, even to yourself.

Soul Insight

You’ve been conditioned to associate goodness with self-denial. But giving from depletion isn’t noble — it’s a slow unraveling. Your joy is not a reward; it’s a right.

Self-Reclamation Shift

You get to give from overflow, not obligation. You don’t need to earn your worth. When you tend to your own joy, your giving becomes cleaner, freer — and more powerful.

⚡ Quick Wins: 2-Minute Soul Reconnection

Say “no” to something small and feel the space it creates.
Write yourself a permission slip: “Today, I choose me.”
Place your hand on your belly and breathe in: I deserve joy.

💖 What You Need Most Right Now

Reconnection to your worth. Practices that release guilt and reclaim your identity. A new way to give — with boundaries and bliss.

You don’t have to burn out to belong.

Come build a life that nourishes you inside the Dream Accelerator mentoring membership community — because martyrdom is NOT the vibe.

The Achieving Auto-Pilot - High-functioning but unfulfilled

You’ve checked every box — except your own.

It’s time to trade achievement for alignment.

Profile Snapshot

You’re a high-achiever, the go-getter, the one who makes things happen. Your calendar is full, your resume glows, and yet… there’s a hollowness. You’re doing everything “right,” but it doesn’t feel like you anymore.

Soul Insight

You’ve been running a race that no longer inspires you — driven by approval, perfectionism, and pressure. You’re not broken. You’re just misaligned. And your soul is tired of pretending.

Self-Reclamation Shift

Success doesn’t have to cost your soul. You can keep your ambition — but align it with what actually matters to you. It’s time to let your values, not just your goals, lead the way.

⚡ Quick Wins: 2-Minute Soul Reconnection

Ask: “Is this achievement mine… or someone else’s expectation?”
Do one thing today not because you should — but because it feels good.
Breathe into your belly and say: “I get to choose a different rhythm.”

💖 What You Need Most Right Now

A pause. A reset. A clear path back to authenticity — without sacrificing excellence. You need alignment more than another accolade.

You don’t have to abandon success to find yourself.Rediscover your truth inside the Dream Accelerator mentoring membership community — and build success that feels like soul-yes.

The Emerging Architect - Ready to redesign her life, but unsure how

You know there’s more. You’re ready to build it.Let’s design your next chapter — from the inside out.

Profile Snapshot

You’ve started to wake up. You’re not quite sure what comes next, but you know what’s behind you no longer fits. You’re asking bigger questions. You’re shedding roles. You’re becoming — even if it’s messy.

Soul Insight

This in-between space is sacred. It’s where the old dissolves and the new emerges. You’re not lost — you’re under construction. You’re building a life in your own image, and that is holy work.

Self-Reclamation Shift

You don’t need to have it all figured out to begin. Just take the next soul-aligned step. Let desire lead. Let your body tell the truth. Trust that clarity comes in motion.

⚡ Quick Wins: 2-Minute Soul Reconnection

Name one thing you’re ready to release — and say goodbye with love.
Move your body in a way that feels free for one minute.
Whisper to yourself: “I am becoming.”

💖 What You Need Most Right Now

A brave container for your becoming. A map for soulful reinvention. Companionship that honors your truth as you build a new identity.

This is your time to build on purpose. Join the Dream Accelerator mentoring membership community — and create the life your future self is already thanking you for.