Discover Your Survival Strategy
Welcome to the "Discover Your Survival Strategy Quiz." Life moulds us, and we all develop unique coping mechanisms or survival strategies. These strategies, whether we realize it or not, significantly impact our health, wellness, and overall life.
In this quiz, we'll explore attachment styles and their influence on your journey. These styles once served to protect and guide you but might now hold you back from being your true self.
This quiz might stir up emotions and physical reactions—it's your body's way of communicating with you. So, grab a pillow for support, and let's begin.
Inspired by the Biology Of Trauma Attachment Module & The NARM, this quiz will reveal your unique survival strategy. You may resonate with one style more than others, or you might see a bit of yourself in all of them. It's all about understanding yourself better and moving toward healing and self-compassion.
Do you strive for perfection & have almost impossible standards?
Do you think that if people knew the real you they would not love you?
Do you avoid conflict by saying "yes" when you want to say "no"?
Do you feel ungrounded?
Feelings of being ungrounded: Excessive thoughts, anxiety, phobias, fears related to survival, feelings of abandonment, scarcity mentality, territoriality, victim mentality, material insecurity or co-dependency
Have you ever experienced, either in the past or at present, a challenging relationship with food or struggled with an eating disorder?
Do you feel like a burden and carry a lot of shame? Feeling disconnected to your life?
Would you describe yourself as competitive? Do you constantly push yourself by doing more than the rest?
Do you easily get fatigue and drained by other people?
Do you experience a sense of smallness on the inside while projecting strength outward?
Do you have a hard time breathing?
Do you feel like you are invisible?
Do you struggle with a fear of surrender and find it challenging to maintain relationships, often ensuring that you the one to leave first?
Were you the "good" girl or boy growing up?
Do you find yourself uncertain about your true identity or questioning your self-worth?
Do you feel like you always need to be in control?
Do you often find yourself in a caretaker role, giving and rescuing others while prioritising their needs over your own?
Do you feel like your looks and my performance identify who you are?
Are you rebellious and against authority?
Do you feel small, powerless and fear failure?
Do you feel empty inside?
Do you feel that your head is your safe space, you don't feel your body?
Do you feel that you don't want to be in your body?
Are you always on guard?
Your attachment style is: Love Me
Love Me seeks grounded security. Healing revolves around letting go of the belief that you're unlovable and must be perfect. Those with this attachment style often push themselves excessively and fear opening up their hearts. Common health conditions tied to this style include a constant sympathetic discharge through excessive movement, difficulty finding stillness, inner anxiety, and outer calmness.
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Your attachment style is: Hold Me
This attachment style forms the foundation for survival regulation. Healing involves reconnecting with your emotions and relationships. Attachment pain may make you feel constantly on guard, as if it's unsafe to relax, and you might experience a sense of isolation. Common health conditions or imbalances associated with this style include autoimmune issues, Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), gastrointestinal symptoms, and fibromyalgia.
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Your attachment style is: Support Me
Support Me lays the groundwork for safe emotional expression. Healing involves establishing a sense of structure. If you resonate with this attachment style, you may feel detached from your body, overwhelmed, and unable to process life due to a lack of support. Common health conditions linked to this style include ADHD, anxiety, feelings of being overwhelmed, and disorganization.
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Your attachment style is: See Me
See Me serves as the foundation for self-worth. Healing modalities revolve around finding inner strength, containment, and support. If you identify with this style, you may often feel small on the inside, compensating by projecting power on the outside. You might also have a history of being the "good girl" or "good boy" to avoid disappointing others. Common health conditions associated with this style include chronic pain, chronic fatigue, or a strong freeze response from the dorsal vagal system.
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Your attachment style is: Understand Me
Understand Me forms the foundation for stability. Healing modalities involve touch and finding stability in your life. If you relate to this attachment style, you might harbor unrecognized anger, frustration, and resentment towards people who drain or take from you. Common health conditions linked to this style include back pain, neck pain, colitis, and high blood pressure.
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Your attachment style is: Hear Me
Hear Me serves as the foundation for trust. Healing modalities focus on finding support, building a solid structure, and nurturing both your physical and emotional well-being. Those with this attachment style often struggle with feeling empty inside and have a tendency to prioritize rescuing others and people-pleasing.
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