Discover Your Survival Strategy

Welcome to the "Discover Your Survival Strategy Quiz." Life moulds us, and we all develop unique coping mechanisms or survival strategies. These strategies, whether we realize it or not, significantly impact our health, wellness, and overall life.

In this quiz, we'll explore attachment styles and their influence on your journey. These styles once served to protect and guide you but might now hold you back from being your true self.

This quiz might stir up emotions and physical reactions—it's your body's way of communicating with you. So, grab a pillow for support, and let's begin.

Inspired by the Biology Of Trauma Attachment Module & The NARM, this quiz will reveal your unique survival strategy. You may resonate with one style more than others, or you might see a bit of yourself in all of them. It's all about understanding yourself better and moving toward healing and self-compassion.

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Do you strive for perfection & have almost impossible standards?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you think that if people knew the real you they would not love you?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you avoid conflict by saying "yes" when you want to say "no"?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you feel ungrounded?

Feelings of being ungrounded: Excessive thoughts, anxiety, phobias, fears related to survival, feelings of abandonment, scarcity mentality, territoriality, victim mentality, material insecurity or co-dependency

Yes

Sometimes

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Have you ever experienced, either in the past or at present, a challenging relationship with food or struggled with an eating disorder?

Yes

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Do you feel like a burden and carry a lot of shame? Feeling disconnected to your life?

Yes

Sometimes

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Would you describe yourself as competitive? Do you constantly push yourself by doing more than the rest?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you easily get fatigue and drained by other people?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you experience a sense of smallness on the inside while projecting strength outward?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you have a hard time breathing?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you feel like you are invisible?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you struggle with a fear of surrender and find it challenging to maintain relationships, often ensuring that you the one to leave first?

Yes

Sometimes

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Were you the "good" girl or boy growing up?

Yes

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Do you find yourself uncertain about your true identity or questioning your self-worth?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you feel like you always need to be in control?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you often find yourself in a caretaker role, giving and rescuing others while prioritising their needs over your own?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you feel like your looks and my performance identify who you are?

Yes

Sometimes

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Are you rebellious and against authority?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you feel small, powerless and fear failure?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you feel empty inside?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you feel that your head is your safe space, you don't feel your body?

Yes

Sometimes

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Do you feel that you don't want to be in your body?

Yes

Sometimes

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Are you always on guard?

Yes

Sometimes

Your attachment style is: Love Me

Love Me seeks grounded security. Healing revolves around letting go of the belief that you're unlovable and must be perfect. Those with this attachment style often push themselves excessively and fear opening up their hearts. Common health conditions tied to this style include a constant sympathetic discharge through excessive movement, difficulty finding stillness, inner anxiety, and outer calmness.