Does your partner have many qualities you don't have yourself?
Do you feel that you and your partner complete each other, as in "two halves of one whole?"
Do you feel that sometimes you resent your partner because they have qualities you wish you had?
Do you feel that you genuinely appreciate your partner for the ways that you both are different?
Do you feel that you are your own person outside of your relationship?
Do you feel that your partner's qualities/character traits overpower yours?
Do you and your partner tend to approach problems in similar ways?
Do you feel like your partner often mirrors your thoughts and feelings?
Do you feel more "balanced" or more "matched" with your partner?
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Complementary Relationship
You and your partner balance each other with different strengths.
What it means: In a complementary relationship, each person brings something unique to the table. Where you might be more reflective, they might be more action-driven; where you’re detail-oriented, they might be big-picture.
Positives: You cover each other’s blind spots. You both grow by learning from each other. It can feel like you “complete” each other.
Potential Negatives: Risk of imbalance: if differences become too sharp, one person may feel overshadowed or dependent.
Role rigidity: partners might feel “stuck” in certain roles (e.g., one always the caregiver, the other always the achiever).
Resentment: Sometimes differences can spark envy or frustration.
Reflection Tip: Embrace the growth opportunities while making sure both voices are equally valued. Differences should complement, not dominate.
Supplementary Relationship
You and your partner share many qualities, values, and traits.
What it means: In a supplementary relationship, the similarities between you create a sense of deep connection and understanding. You “get” each other because you think and feel in similar ways.
Positives: Shared values and goals make it easy to align. You likely enjoy doing the same activities and have a strong sense of teamwork. Conflicts may feel less about misunderstandings and more about logistics.
Potential Negatives: Risk of echo chamber: when both partners think the same, blind spots can go unchecked.
Intensified conflicts: if both share a strong trait (like stubbornness), disagreements may escalate. Less diversity of perspective: growth may feel limited compared to a more contrasting relationship.
Reflection Tip: Celebrate your common ground, but make space for outside influences and diverse perspectives to keep things fresh and balanced.