For each pair of the following statements, circle the one that best fits you within your relationships.

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For each pair of the following statements, circle the one that best fits you within your relationships.

*This material is adapted from Dr. Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. For more information, visit www.5lovelanguages.com.

Question 1

I like to receive encouraging or affirming notes.

I like to be hugged.

Question 2

I like to spend one-on-one time with a person who is special to me.

I feel loved when someone gives me practical help.

Question 3

I like it when people give me gifts.

I like leisurely visits with friends and loved ones.

Question 4

I feel loved when people do things to help me.

I feel loved when people give me a reassuring hand shake or hug.

Question 5

I feel loved when someone I love or admire puts their arm around me.

I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I admire or love.

Question 6

I like to go places with friends or loved ones.

I like to high-five or hold hands with people who are special to me.

Question 7

Visible symbols of love (such as gifts) are important to me.

I feel loved when people affirm me.

Question 8

I like to sit close to people I enjoy being around.

I like it when people tell me I’m attractive/handsome.

Question 9

I like to spend time with friends and loved ones.

I like to receive gifts from friends and loved ones.

Question 10

Words of acceptance are important to me.

I know someone loves me when he or she helps me.

Question 11

I like being together and doing things with friends and loved ones.

I like it when kind words are spoken to me.

Question 12

What someone does affects me more than what they say.

Hugs make me feel connected and valued.

Question 13

I value praise and try to avoid criticism.

Several small gifts mean more to me than one large gift.

Question 14

I feel close to someone when we are talking or doing something together.

I feel closer to friends and loved ones when we hug or shake hands.

Question 15

I like for people to compliment my achievements.

I know people love me when they do things for me they don’t enjoy doing.

Question 16

I like physical touch from friends and loved ones when I’m around them.

I like when people listen to me and show genuine interest in what I’m saying.

Question 17

I feel loved when friends and loved ones help me with jobs or projects.

I really enjoy receiving gifts from friends and loved ones.

Question 18

I like for people to compliment my appearance.

I feel loved when people take time to understand my feelings.

Question 19

I feel secure when a special person is physically close to me.

Acts of service make me feel loved.

Question 20

I appreciate the many things that special people do for me.

I like receiving gifts that special people make for me.

Question 21

I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone gives me undivided attention.

I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone does an act of service for me.

Question 22

I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with a gift.

I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with meaningful words.

Question 23

I know a person is thinking of me when they give me a gift.

I feel loved when a person helps me with my chores or tasks.

Question 24

I appreciate it when someone listens patiently and doesn’t interrupt me.

I appreciate it when someone remembers special days with a gift.

Question 25

I like knowing loved ones are concerned enough to help with my daily tasks.

I enjoy extended trips with someone who is special to me.

Question 26

I don’t mind physical affection from friends I am close to.

Receiving a gift given for no special reason excites me.

Question 27

I like to be told that I am appreciated.

I like for a person to look at me when we are talking.

Question 28

Gifts from a friend or loved one are always special to me.

I feel good when a friend or loved one hugs or touches me.

Question 29

I feel loved when a person enthusiastically does some task I have requested.

I feel loved when I am told how much I am appreciated.

Question 30

I need physical contact with people every day.

I need words of encouragement and affirmation every day.

Words of Affirmation

One of your deepest needs is the need to feel appreciated. Verbal compliments, words of appreciation and encouragement are all ways to show love to you.

{result #1 percent} Words of Affirmation

{result #2 percent} Quality Time

{result #3 percent} Receiving Gifts

{result #4 percent} Acts of Service

{result #5 percent} Physical Touch

Quality Time

You enjoy doing things TOGETHER. This doesn’t mean just sitting in front of the TV together, but really giving each other undivided attention. This means looking at each other, talking to each other and sharing your life.

{result #1 percent} Words of Affirmation

{result #2 percent} Quality Time

{result #3 percent} Receiving Gifts

{result #4 percent} Acts of Service

{result #5 percent} Physical Touch

Receiving Gifts

You are happy to receive things from your loved ones. They don’t have to be expensive. The gift is a symbol of “they care about me” and “they think of me.”

{result #1 percent} Words of Affirmation

{result #2 percent} Quality Time

{result #3 percent} Receiving Gifts

{result #4 percent} Acts of Service

{result #5 percent} Physical Touch

Acts of Service

For you, actions speak louder than words. You prefer people to do things for you (i.e. cook a meal, give a massage, run an errand). You like others to initiate acts of service and put effort into doing them to show that they care.

{result #1 percent} Words of Affirmation

{result #2 percent} Quality Time

{result #3 percent} Receiving Gifts

{result #4 percent} Acts of Service

{result #5 percent} Physical Touch

Physical Touch

You love to hold hands or receive a hug, kiss or pat on the back. For you, physical touch can be ten times as powerful and comforting as any words.

{result #1 percent} Words of Affirmation

{result #2 percent} Quality Time

{result #3 percent} Receiving Gifts

{result #4 percent} Acts of Service

{result #5 percent} Physical Touch