The 5 Comfort Languages

It can be hard to communicate with loved ones when in a time of distress. Take this quiz to figure out the best way for you to be supported and comforted in your time of need.

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You’ve just received bad news, and you’re feeling overwhelmed. What would make you feel the most supported?

Someone gives you a comforting hug or holds your hand.

Someone expresses that they are here for you and ensures you of the time it takes to process this.

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You’re struggling with an overwhelming task while grieving. What would be the most helpful for you?

Someone helps you with the practical tasks, like making dinner or handling other responsibilities.

Someone listens patiently as you talk about what you’re going through, offering words of support.

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If you were feeling very down, what kind of comfort would lift your spirits the most?

Someone gives you a meaningful gift, like a small memento or a handwritten card.

Someone reassures you with comforting words, like “You’re not alone” or “I’m here for you.”

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During a tough time, what would you find most comforting when you’re alone?

A loved one sends you a thoughtful text or call just to let you know they’re thinking of you.

A close friend shows up in person just to sit with you, no talking required.

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When you're feeling drained and overwhelmed, you most appreciate someone:

Taking care of some of the practical things in your life—like running errands or helping with chores.

Listening to you vent or talk through your emotions, providing a safe space to express yourself.

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In moments of grief, what makes you feel the most seen and understood?

Someone who helps with the day-to-day things, like organizing, cooking, or handling logistics.

Someone brings over something thoughtful—maybe a small plant or something that symbolizes the person you’ve lost.

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If you’re experiencing deep sadness or loss, what would comfort you the most?

A thoughtful gift, like a photo album or a personal keepsake that honors the memory of your loved one.

A heartfelt conversation with someone who shares their understanding of your loss and offers gentle words of support.

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You’ve been struggling emotionally for a few days now, how would you prefer someone show you they care?

Someone offering to sage your space to let out the negative energy

By offering emotional support, such as gently asking, "How are you really feeling today?"

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If you’re going through a stressful time, what kind of support would feel most helpful to you?

Someone offering a simple, meaningful gesture—praying for you (or equivalent)

Someone helping with arranging things for you or offering assistance with everyday tasks.

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After a loss, what type of gesture would make you feel most cared for?

Someone sitting with you and holding you while you grieve.

Someone acknowledging your emotions and talking to you about your grief, offering reassurance that it's okay to feel upset.

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When you’re going through a difficult moment, what would help you most?

A hug, or having someone close by to just be physically present with you.

A friend taking you out to get dinner/bringing you take-out

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If you were feeling isolated and alone, what would make you feel most connected?

Someone sharing that they are sorry for how you are feeling and letting you know you are not alone.

Someone taking the time to ask how you’re coping, really listening to how you feel, and validating your experience.

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If you were dealing with a tough situation, what kind of support would you value most?

A physical gesture, like a touch on the arm, a hug, or just someone sitting next to you.

Someone shares a comforting memory or reminds you of the strength you have to move forward.

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When you're feeling overwhelmed by life, you feel most comforted when someone:

Offers to help with practical needs—like managing your schedule or helping with daily chores.

Encourages you to talk through your emotions, offering a listening ear and allowing you to express yourself freely.

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During a period of emotional hardship, how would you prefer someone express their care for you?

By bringing over a symbolic item—a photo, a memory book, or something that represents love and remembrance.

Someone simply sitting with you in silence, offering their presence without needing to say anything.

Physical Comfort

You value a reassuring touch or someone's physical presence when you're going through challenging times. Whether it's a hug, holding hands, or simply being in the presence of a loved one, physical comfort brings you peace and solace.

Verbal Comfort

Words have the power to heal and uplift you. You find comfort in conversations that reassure, console, and affirm your feelings. Listening and being heard are immensely valuable to you.

Practical Comfort

You appreciate when someone helps take care of everyday tasks, allowing you the space and time to focus on healing. Acts of service, like running errands or helping with chores, provide you the support you need.

Emotional Comfort

You find solace in open conversations about feelings and emotions. Emotional support, understanding, and validation of your experiences are what help you feel connected and cared for.

Symbolic Comfort

Symbolic gestures, mementos, and meaningful tokens speak deeply to you. Gifts that honor memories and express thoughtfulness resonate and provide a sense of being cherished.